A human being is much like a sculpture moulded and defined by the experiences he or she goes through in life Losing someone or going through something much like the Japanese did require a time to cope Nonetheless when going through this process one thinks no one knows exactly what he or she is having to endure or no one how it feels In this manner as we read the novel Obasan we learn how three different people Obasan Aunt Emily and Stephen coped with their past struggles each very different way